Failed to Disturb

"A woman (Nicole Kidman) becomes convinced that a ten year old boy is the reincarnation of her dead husband" - The Birth ( IMDB / Rotten Tomatoes). Although having Nicole Kidman in the movie Birth definitely boosted its 'Hollywood' factor, the movie Birth still gave me a distinct impression of being an art movie. Audiences who read the above synopsis and naturally came to the expectation of a heavy super-natural element or mystery solving would no doubt be disappointed (a mislead not helped by the film poster using the sentence "careful what you wish for"). If the movie had been promoted as a movie about the quest into Love, the audience would probably better prepared and easier to make peace with the movie. The definition of an Art movie that I normally use doesn't necessary require the director having a particular message to convince the audience, rather, the movie simply just add to the experience of life of the audiences via cinematography. However, I was't quite sure whether the 'experience of life' that the Birth added to me was really a thought provoking one or it was merely due to it being so boring and my mind could not stop wondering around with irrelevant thought...
The movie definitely reminded me the cruel reality when people marring widow or widower. It is not like a divorce whether the previous marriage obviously didn't work out. Not many of them would have the courage to ask the question and might have to live with the uncertainty for the rest of their marriage. Do their other halves love them more than the dead? Have they finally replaced the dead as the most loved, or are the dead remain irreplaceable...
The controversy around the movie led me to an expectation of a sequence of disturbing scenes. However, the 'infamous' kiss scene was a big disappointment in terms of disturbing-ness. If people were to shown that scene out of context and were told that Nicole Kidman were that 10 year old boy's mother, that kiss would not raise any doubt about its innocence. As regarding the 'bathtub' scene where Anna and the 10 year old boy were shown in a bathtub naked together, one thing for sure was the at no point during the shooting ,the boy saw Nicole Kidman really naked, nor did the boy exposing himself more than he would normally do if he were swimming in a public swimming pool. "That's not the point", angered audiences claimed that the scene was very provocative... Did the scene tempted people to have sex with young children? Personally, my answer is no, I had other questions in my mind.
"Can love transcend the age difference?" would probably be the wrong question to ask. Obviously they are numerous such love stories in the real world (of love between adults with huge age gap). The question should probably be 'Can I?' As Anna (Nicole Kidman) asked in the movie, whether the 10 year old boy could perform his duty as a husband and satisfy her sexual needs, can I be in love with someone without sex? Anna obviously decided she could. However, that decision was made with the knowledge that he would grow up and in six year time (depending on which country they are in) they could have sex legally. I wonder whether she would make the same decision if Sean (the 10 year old 'husband') were to remain being a 10 year old boy forever. Again, there are numerous real-life examples of people remain in love after accidents which left them with disabilities (including sexual one) to cope with. Indeed, people with disabilities or for whatever reason who never had sex and could never had sex do fall in love. Yet, the majority non-empathic (in a super natural sense) (sexually) healthy human beings would be left to wonder and forbidden to find out (before their bodies started failing on them) whether the kind of 'platonic' love mentioned above are the same as one involving sex, and indeed, whether they are capable of such kind of love themselves...
One final thought, or might be that irony was what the director trying (failing) to get across, and it is impossible to say it without giving some sort of spoiler... so the readers who are planning to watch the movie might want to stop reading here.
The irony I found, which reminded me the sad fact of life is that someone could be deeply in love with a person (like Anna in the movie did to her dead husband) to the extend that she is willing to do anything (like Anna with her runaway plan), yet the person on the receiving end isn't really worth it and indeed probably doesn't even love her back (like Sean the dead husband in the movie)...

15/11/2004